The year is almost over, and many are releasing a sigh of relief. We want 2020 to be over because it has been a very trying time. We know that Covid-19 is still here, and our lives are not where we would like them to be. I want to share a gift with you, a technique, I use to enable you to enter 2021 with hope and direction. Grab a journal and a pen.
Let us begin by honoring 2020, as difficult as it has been.
First write down five significant events that happened for you this year that you are truly grateful for. I want you to think of significant events, big and small and especially those that may have been difficult. Often times we think in terms of gratitude and we only think of all the great things, but it's important to think about those times that were challenging, because challenges help us to grow, they teach us something about ourselves, and our abilities. Difficult times that we have been through, in retrospect, can remind us that we can survive things we once thought were unbearable.
Second, make a list of five people you are thankful for from 2020. The feelings and thoughts you have about people, good and bad, can be used to better yourself and therefore go forward into 2021 stronger, more knowledgeable and with a better understanding of yourself. This is how you honour, learn, and grow from your experiences.
Next you can choose what to let go of. Write out your answers to this two-step process.
What do I need to let go of that no longer serves me?
The answer may be a relationship dynamic, a negative thought pattern, or an unhealthy dependency on food or other lifestyle choices.
The second step is to give yourself permission to let it go. Free yourself from the trap of having to justify why you are letting it go. You need no one else's consent.
You only need to recognize that there are behaviours and situations that are not helping you, replenishing you or making you feel good about yourself. Therefore, you can just stop. Breath. And let it go.
You have freed up mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional energy to focus on what you really want to be doing.
What do I want to continue with?
What do I want to add that I have not allowed myself to have?
This technique is about building resilience as a way of life. Practising these skills and strategies on a regular basis makes it easier to use them on the hard days.You now have clarity about how to approach the coming year no matter what it brings. It allows you to step into the best version of yourself and everyone around you benefits from that. I am reminded of this every time I look at my eight-year-old son who is looking to me about how to navigate in difficult tim