Today I want to unpack what that statement really means for you. Often, we read these wonderful quotes and as much as they sound inspiring, they don’t mean anything if you cannot apply them to your life. If the quote does not lead to some concrete action you can take, then they are just words on a page.
As much as I love inspirational quotes myself, I am much more interested in actions based on a strategy that will help me either reach a goal or make a significant change in my life! So, let’s look at what that quote can do for us given our collective current situation.
You and I have heard it said enough times already that this year has been extremely difficult. Not only did we have to quarantine ourselves from our loved ones, many of us have been facing economic hardship, fears about the potential health threat and a general anxiety about the future. Many of us are concerned about how our children are doing and if their development will be impacted by being away from friends, and out of school for so long. Not to mention that they are hearing and seeing how we are being effected by and responding to this situation.
I want to show you then how to “Take it one step at a time”.
Let's talk about resilience.
The definition of resilience is the ability to recover quickly from difficulties.
Easily understood. Good. Now let's take it step by step.
Think in terms of time. View this situation as temporary. Because it is. Quarantine is not forever, neither will wearing masks or social distancing. In time we will get back to more normal routines. A vaccine or medical solution will be available. Reminding yourself that this situation is not permanent makes it easier to get through because everyday gets us closer to the end of this difficult time.
I am not asking you to pretend that this is not trying and that all your economic hardships, and fears about the future, are going to suddenly disappear…. I wish I could! But being optimistic that things will get better, and especially when you don’t know how that is going to happen, is essential. I am not talking about being in denial about this or any other difficult situation. Optimism is believing that things will get better. Optimism can also help with our next step.
Yes, you read that right. Control. Now is the time to focus on what you do have control over. This always brings about a sense of calm because feeling out of control is the worst stress of all.
What do you have control of? Focus on that. Ask yourself 'who can help you in the areas that you don’t have as much control as you would like to have'?
Pay particular attention to what you are focusing on day to day, moment to moment even. Are you following the number of COVID-19 cases everyday to see if they are going up or down in your neighbourhood, province? Are you reading all the stories of people who have suffered or have not survived this virus?
It is great to be informed but not if it is to the detriment of your own mental health, which affects your physical health too and you do not need that right now.
Here is your permission to take a break. Use the time instead to do things that are replenishing, relaxing, and rejuvenating.
Read a book, watch a funny movie, chat with friends and other loved ones, meditate, walk, run, ride a bike, dance, sing!
Add your own great ideas. I am sure you have many.
Let me know how this works for you
Resilience is about recovering quickly from difficulties. But this is not a race. I am not timing you and comparing you to others. And neither should you. Work on your recovery from any difficult situation you are facing.
Know always that I am here for you.
For the month of September, I am offering a complimentary session to help you get clear on how you want to be taking it “one step at a time.”
In your own way that works for you in the context of your busy life during these difficult times.
And doesn’t that make the quote mean so much more now?
E-mail or call me today to set up a virtual meeting.